Parent hub

Parents and those in a parenting role have questions and concerns that are wide ranging - because their areas of responsibility are many and varied.

We acknowledge that those parenting trans and gender diverse children of any age are thinking about issues and factors that can seem overwhelming and all consuming.

We understand that practical concerns around school, work, access to treatment and transition can be difficult to grapple with. We also know that there can be a sense of grief and loss; and that family and relationship issues can arise.

Being able to speak to other parents, share your experiences and seek peer support can make the process easier to navigate. 

Please contact us for peer support or to be put in contact with other parents, resources, groups and services in your area.

Some questions you may find yourself asking…

  • Is this a phase?
  • How does my child know?
  • How and what do we tell people?
  • What will happen at sport/school/work?
  • My child has mental health issues/school refusal issues, what do I do?
  • Is binding/tucking safe?
  • How will we access blockers and hormones?
  • My child may need voice and communication assistance.
  • How will my child navigate romantic and sexual relationships?

We have compiled a list of some reference books which can be an excellent resource for parents.

A note about privacy

When our children share their gender identity with us, we are being entrusted with information and a truth that is not our own. Maintaining each child’s right to privacy and respect is a fundamental part of this process. Privacy may mean not disclosing a child’s status as a trans or gender diverse person. It may mean not using their birth name or sharing it with others, or it may mean that you don’t ask questions about gender, sexuality or your child’s body unless invited to do so.

Useful HuffPost Blog 

Download "Coming out Vs Inviting In" PDF from Rainbow Network.

When your child comes to you with questions or tells you that they are or may be trans or gender diverse, it can be helpful to have some basic information.

Kids Telethon Institute factsheet Gender Diversity

Largest Australian Study into Trans and Gender Diverse Young People - Trans Pathways study. Summary Guide

Australian Made Concealing underwear for trans girls and young women contact Underneath The Rainbow, made here in Melbourne!

For Parents of Teens

If your child is older they may be asking for a binder or packer - which many parents might be unfamiliar with. You may even find the concept of packers and STPs challenging. We have included some links to basic information below.

Bread and Butter Goods - Australian retailer of trans masculine products.

Reaching out to us for support and connections to other parents can give you another avenue to ask these questions; in a supported friendly atmosphere.  

Guide to buying a binder if you live in Australia.

Scarleteen - inclusive, comprehensive and supportive sexuality and relationships info for teens and emerging adults.  

Packers and STPs - basic information.

Androgynous Clothing try - Androswag and Gender Free World